|A moment of sibling harmony!|
When you are a mother of one and you know that you want another a child the question is at the forefront of your mind is often "what's the perfect age gap between children?". Of course this is a million pound question that doesn't really have a perfect answer. I'm sure if there was one someone somewhere would be making alot of money from selling it!
The age gap between my children is 2 years and 1 week exactly and I can't say that its always been easy. In fact I think the past 6 months has been particularly hard. My daughter is 4 and although she is growing up fast I have found that she still needs a lot of attention and help with things. My son is 2 and now refuses to sit quietly in his buggy when we are out (as he would have done at 18 months). He demands to walk like his big sister and is also very vocal about what he wants so even a trip to the supermarket or local park has become quite a challenge for me as I constantly worry about one of them running off!
The early days were difficult too. When I look at my youngest now I appreciate just how little my daughter was when her brother was born and yet at the time I saw her as my "big girl" when really she was just a baby herself and I probably expected too much from her. It was hard coping with the demands of a two year olds tantrums whilst trying to breastfeed a newborn. My little girl didn't start pre-school until my son was 3 months old so the first three months were spent in a sleepless, milky haze and I do worry that I didn't have as much time to bond with my son. The dual nappy changes were also hard although I ended up getting quite a production line going and becoming quite an expert (must add that to the CV).
However a 2 year old gap does have some definite plus points too. I love the fact that my children are so close to each other and I'm sure that this is because they have spent so much time together. I know that my son is really going to miss his sister when she starts school in September as they love playing together most of the time. They both like the same toys, the same TV programmes and going to the same places. I've also found that as a 2 year age gap is fairly common many of my daughters friends have siblings of the same age so my son has had a ready made group of friends. I also hope that as they get older they will be able to support each other when facing teenage concerns and exam stress as they will be going through this at the same time.
Of course we are not often in control of the age gap and are often at the whim of the fertility gods or our choices come down to financial issues!
What are the age gaps between your children and what are the pros and cons?